There are some Sundays in the life of the Church that come wrapped in joy and tenderness, and Mother’s Day is certainly one of them. But if we are honest, it is also one of the more complicated days we observe.
There are certain days in history that are seared into our minds, and for me, one of those days is the day my mother died. On the 8th of February 2018, my mother suddenly died. It was early in the morning, and the phone rang. My sister-in-law was calling to give us the news. When Nicky told me what had happened, I lost it and could not move.
My mother was my strength and my rock. She was my biggest supporter and my loudest critic. That day in February left a big hole in my heart and in my life. I miss my mother’s presence every day, but I feel her spirit and know she is with me in everything I do.
For some, this day is filled with gratitude and warm memories. For others, it carries grief—grief for mothers who have died, for relationships strained or broken, for children longed for but never born, and for hopes that did not unfold the way we imagined. Still, throughout these different experiences, many women have raised children not born to them and nurtured generations through teaching, caregiving, mentoring, healing, counseling, or by simple presence. Some women have carried communities on their backs while no one thought to thank them.
With all of this in mind, I want to not only celebrate mothers in the narrow sense of the word, but also honor the sacred vocation of women—women whose lives reveal strength, compassion, wisdom, courage, sacrifice, endurance, and grace.
This honoring has deep roots. Throughout Scripture, whenever God is preparing to change the world, very often a woman is already there.
Before Moses could lead, there was Jochebed, his mother, who hid him among the reeds to save his life. Before Israel had a king, there was Hannah praying with tears in the temple. Before the resurrection was proclaimed, there was Mary Magdalene, one of the most maligned women in history, standing faithfully at the tomb when others had fled.
And before the salvation of the world entered history in flesh and blood, there was Mary.
Mary of Nazareth. The mother of Jesus.
I am a theologian of the Reformed tradition. I firmly believe that the church needed and continues to need reform. As I have said in the past, God is still speaking, and Revelation is still happening.
At the same time, I feel the reformers discarded more than they should have, including devotion to the mother of Jesus. I refer not to worship, but to honoring the woman chosen by God above all others to be the mother of the Word Made Flesh.
Mary is a young woman from an unremarkable village. Poor. Unknown. Living under Roman occupation. Yet when the angel appeared and spoke impossible words, “Greetings, favored one,” she answered not with power or certainty, but with questions, and courage.
“Let it be with me according to your word.”
We often soften Mary into stained-glass gentleness, but there was steel in her faith. Mary said yes to a calling that would place her in danger, invite misunderstanding, and ultimately lead her to stand beneath a cross watching her son die.
And yet she remained.
Mary teaches us that holiness is not weakness. Holiness is endurance. Holiness is showing up when love becomes costly.
At times, the Church underestimates women because the world often equates gentleness with fragility. Yet Scripture never does.
The Bible is filled with strong women.
Deborah stood as judge and leader over Israel when the nation lacked courage. Esther risked her life before the king for the sake of her people. Ruth crossed borders and built a new future out of loss and uncertainty. The Samaritan woman at the well became one of the first evangelists after an encounter with Jesus. Lydia opened her home and helped establish the early Church. Phoebe was a deacon.
These women were not background characters in God’s story. They were central to it.
And perhaps that should not surprise us, because from the very beginning, Scripture tells us that women and men alike are created in the image of God.
Not one reflecting God more than the other. Both bear a divine imprint. Both necessary. Both beloved.
And yet, many women move through life carrying burdens largely unseen. Expectations. Exhaustion. Caregiving. Emotional labor. Quiet sacrifices no one applauds.
Women are often the ones who hold families together, remember birthdays, sit through hospital nights, offer comfort at funerals, teach children to pray, and somehow continue giving even when they themselves are weary.
There is a holy resilience in that.
But today should not merely be about thanking women for what they do. Shifting our focus, it should also be about affirming who they are.
Beloved children of God.
Not valuable only because they nurture others. Not worthy only because they sacrifice. Not holy only because they serve. Women are sacred simply because God created them, called them good, and affirmed their inherent dignity and worth.
One of the tragedies of our modern culture is that we have learned to measure people by productivity instead of presence. Too often, we find ourselves asking, “What do you contribute?” before we ask, “How is your soul?”
Jesus never did that.
Look carefully at the women around Jesus. He spoke to women publicly when others thought it improper. He listened to them. He healed them. He defended them. He welcomed them among his followers.
In a world that often pushed women to the margins, Jesus consistently brought them to the center.
That matters. It mattered then, and it matters now because affirming women’s dignity and equality is central to our faith and community.
Because there are still too many voices in our world, including voices in the Church, that try to diminish women, silence women, objectify women, dismiss women, or define women too narrowly.
But the Gospel speaks a different word.
The Gospel declares women as bearers of wisdom, strength, prophecy, leadership, compassion, and faith. It proclaims women as first to announce resurrection and as essential—not secondary—to God’s plan of redemption.
And so today, we honor all women.
We honor mothers raising children in exhausting and beautiful circumstances. We honor grandmothers whose prayers still echo through generations. We honor adoptive mothers, foster mothers, godmothers, spiritual mothers, teachers, nurses, counselors, chaplains, mentors, caregivers, and friends.
We honor women who have buried children and women who never had the chance to hold one. We honor women who live quietly faithful lives no one sees except God. We honor women who have fought battles others know nothing about.
We honor women who are healing. Women who are grieving. Women who are searching. Women who are surviving. And women who still dare to hope.
Because hope itself is holy.
Mary knew that.
When she sang the Magnificat, she sang not as a passive observer but as a prophet proclaiming a God who lifts the lowly, fills the hungry, and overturns injustice.
Mary believed God was doing something new in the world.
And perhaps that is the invitation for us today as well.
Let us build a Church where women are not only appreciated one Sunday a year but continually honored, heard, encouraged, and empowered. This is our calling: to recognize the sacred dignity in every woman, every day.
To teach our daughters that their voices matter. To teach our sons to honor and respect the image of God reflected in women.
To become a community shaped not by domination but by mutual love.
At the foot of the cross, as Jesus breathed his last, he looked at his mother and made sure she would not be alone. Even in suffering, he saw her.
Perhaps that is one of the holiest things we can do as Christians: truly see one another. See the burdens. See the gifts. See the grief. See the strength. See the sacred image of God shining in lives that too often go unnoticed.
Today, we give thanks for the women who carried us, taught us, challenged us, comforted us, prayed for us, and loved us into becoming who we are.
And for those carrying sorrow today, we remember that God also sees your tears.
The God who called Mary. The God who strengthened Deborah. The God who walked with Ruth. The God who appeared first to Mary Magdalene in the garden.
That same God walks beside you still.
And so may this day become more than sentimentality.
May it become gratitude. May it become healing. May it become recognition. May it become a blessing.
And may we leave this place remembering that whenever courage, compassion, wisdom, resilience, and love appear in this world, the Spirit of God is already at work.