A Holy Week Reflection on Grief and Bereavement

There are seasons in the life of the Church that do not simply invite reflection; they demand honesty. Holy Week is one of those seasons.

Abstraction is not allowed here; neither is tidying things up too quickly. Rather, we are drawn into the raw, unvarnished reality of grief, loss, and the disorienting experience of love wounded.

For those who carry grief, and, in truth, that is all of us in one way or another, Holy Week feels less like a story we remember and more like a landscape we recognize. Grief often begins with a kind of dissonance.

Palm Sunday gives us that: joy and sorrow mingle in uneasy tension. The crowd shouts Hosanna, yet the shadow of the cross looms already. In moments of beauty, we sense something is not right; something is slipping away.

This feeling is well known to those who have grieved. Laughter catches in the throat; celebrations feel incomplete. We sense, quietly, that life has changed—possibly forever. Holy Week does not begin by denying grief, but by anticipating it.

As the week unfolds, our attention shifts, and we move closer to the intimate spaces where grief is most deeply felt.

In the upper room on Holy Thursday, there is a tenderness that is almost unbearable. Jesus gathers with those he loves. There is bread, wine, conversation, and closeness. Yet beneath it all, there is the knowledge—this is a farewell.

Anyone who has waited at a bedside, shared final words, or sensed a goodbye was coming understands this. The moment takes on a sacredness, a heaviness. Love feels both full and terribly fragile. In this stage, grief is present, though loss has not yet fully arrived.

After the upper room comes the garden. Gethsemane is where grief becomes visceral. Jesus prays in anguish, naming his fear, his sorrow, his desire for another way. “Let this cup pass from me.” There is no pretense here. No spiritual bypassing. No attempt to explain away the pain.

This matters. Too often, those who grieve are told, whether explicitly or implicitly, to move past their pain too quickly. They are urged to find meaning before they have had time to feel loss, or to speak of resurrection before they have acknowledged death.

But Jesus does not do this. He grieves. He wrestles. He remains present to the depth of what he is about to face. And in doing so, he sanctifies our own grief.

When Good Friday arrives, grief comes in its fullness. The cross stands as a stark and unrelenting reality. There is no escaping it. No softening its edges. This is loss. This is death. This is the moment when all that was hoped for seems to collapse.

We stand with Mary, with the beloved disciple, with the few who remain, and we watch helplessly, silently, and broken.

There exists a kind of grief for which no words are sufficient. Some sorrows cannot be explained or fixed. By allowing us to remain in this space, Good Friday grants permission—not to rush, not to resolve, but simply to be present with loss.

And then, perhaps most difficult of all, comes Holy Saturday. After the starkness of Good Friday, we enter the day we often overlook. This is the day of silence. Jesus is in the tomb. The work seems finished. The world goes on, but everything has changed.

This is the day that most closely mirrors the experience of bereavement. Grief is not only the moment of loss, but also the long, quiet aftermath. It is an empty chair and a silence where a voice once was. Sometimes, ordinary moments now feel anything but ordinary.

Holy Saturday is the day of waiting without answers. The day when God seems absent. The day when hope feels distant, if not impossible.

And yet, it is a holy day. Not because it feels holy, but because God is present even here, hidden, unseen, working in ways we do not yet understand.

If Holy Week ended there, it would be unbearable. But it does not. The resurrection comes, but not as a denial of grief, and this is important. The risen Christ still bears the wounds. The nail marks are not erased. The trauma of the cross is not undone as if it never happened. Instead, it is transformed.

This tells us something essential about our own grief. We do not “get over” loss. We do not erase what has been. We carry it, but it changes over time. The sharp edges soften. The weight becomes something we learn to bear. The love that once caused pain becomes, in time, a source of quiet strength.

Resurrection does not remove grief. It redeems it.

And so, Holy Week offers us not an explanation for grief, but a companion in it. A Christ who knows what it is to love and to lose. A Christ who stands at the grave. A Christ who weeps. A Christ who dies. A Christ who rises and carries the wounds still.

For those of us who grieve, this is not a distant theology. It is a promise. That we are not alone. That our sorrow is seen. That even in the darkest moments, God is at work.

In the end, grief is the cost of love.

Holy Week reminds us that love, even when it leads to the cross, is never wasted. It is gathered into the heart of God and transformed.

And somehow, mysteriously, slowly, faithfully, it becomes new life.

Amen.

Spy Wednesday: At the Table in the Shadow of Betrayal

Spy Wednesday always asks us for something we would rather not give.

It asks us to look at betrayal. Not in the abstract or from a safe distance, but up close, uncomfortably close. Close enough that we begin to see ourselves in the story.

In John 13:21–32, we are in the upper room, gathered around the table. The air is thick with intimacy. Just before this, Jesus had washed the disciples’ feet. Then, he gives them—and us—a commandment to love everyone. This progression should lead to a moment of unity, of closeness, of peace.

And yet, John tells us that Jesus is “troubled in spirit.” That alone should stop us and make us think.

We rarely picture Jesus as troubled. We prefer him composed, serene, above the fray. But here, he is deeply disturbed. He knows what is coming. He knows who will betray him. He feels it not just as foreknowledge, but as pain. This is a deeply human moment.

“Very truly, I tell you, one of you will betray me.” Not one of them out there. Not a stranger. “One of you.” The disciples look around at one another, confused, uncertain. No one seems entirely sure who it could be.

Perhaps that is precisely the point being made here.

Betrayal rarely looks like what we expect. It does not always come from enemies. Often, it comes from within the circle, from those closest, from places where trust once lived.

And if we are honest, we know this not only as something done to us, but as something we can do.

Peter, ever the one to act, nods to the beloved disciple to ask Jesus who it is. And Jesus responds in a quiet, almost intimate way: “It is the one to whom I give this piece of bread when I have dipped it in the dish.”

And then he hands it to Judas.

Do not rush past that moment. This is not exposure or condemnation, but an act of hospitality. Even knowing what Judas will do, Jesus feeds him, offers him bread, and includes him in the circle of grace. Judas takes it and leaves.

“And it was night,” John tells us. Not just a detail of time, but a statement of reality. Night has fallen not only outside but within. The image is haunting: Judas steps into the darkness, and the deeper truth is that darkness has already taken root within him. Still, Jesus lets him go.

At this moment, notice Jesus’ response. There is no chasing after Judas. No attempt to force a different outcome. Love does not coerce. Love does not control. Love remains open, even when it is rejected.

Spy Wednesday invites us into that tension. It asks us to sit with the reality that betrayal is part of the human story, and therefore part of our story.

But it also asks a deeper question: Where is Jesus amid betrayal?

The answer is not what we expect. Jesus is not standing apart, pointing fingers. He is at the table. He offers bread. He loves to the very end.

And then, in what seems almost impossible, Jesus says: “Now the Son of Man has been glorified, and God has been glorified in him.”

Glorified? At the very moment of betrayal? At the threshold of suffering?

This is not glory as the world understands—no ordinary triumph or victory. It is the glory of love that does not turn away. The glory of faithfulness in the face of betrayal, and of grace that endures, even when refused.

So, as we reflect on Spy Wednesday, notice that it is not an easy day. It strips away our illusions about ourselves. It reminds us that we are capable of more than we would like to admit.

But it also reveals something more profound. There is no moment, not even betrayal, where Jesus is absent. No darkness so deep that grace cannot reach it. No failure so great that love cannot still be offered.

So perhaps the question Spy Wednesday leaves us with is not simply, “Who is Judas?” But rather: Where, in my life, have I turned away? Where have I chosen something else over Jesus? Where have I stepped into the night? And, more importantly, am I willing to come back to the table?

The remarkable truth is that the table remains. The bread is still offered. The invitation is still there. Jesus still loves us.

As we move closer to the cross, do not turn away from this moment. Allow it to search, challenge, and call us back.

Trust that even in betrayal’s shadow, the light of Jesus has not been put out. It is still there. Waiting.

Amen.

Holy Tuesday: We Want to See Jesus

Holy Tuesday draws us deeper into the tension of this week. The crowds are still gathering, the voices are growing louder, and yet beneath it all, there is a quiet turning, a movement toward something both inevitable and incomprehensible.

In John 12:20–36, a simple request sets everything in motion: “Sir, we wish to see Jesus.”

It is a request made by outsiders, Greeks, seekers, those standing just beyond the familiar boundaries. They come to Philip, who goes to Andrew, and together they bring the request to Jesus.

“We wish to see Jesus.”

It is, in many ways, the simplest prayer. And yet, it opens the door to one of the most profound teachings in John’s Gospel. Because when Jesus hears this, he does not respond with a greeting or an introduction. Instead, he says: “The hour has come for the Son of Man to be glorified.”

Something has shifted.

Up until now, the “hour” has not yet come. It has lingered in the distance—deferred and waiting. Now, with the arrival of these seekers, something breaks open. The circle widens. The world presses in. Jesus recognizes that the moment has arrived.

But what kind of glory is this?

Not the glory of triumph or recognition. Not the kind that draws crowds for spectacle. Instead, Jesus speaks of a seed: “Unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains just a single grain. But if it dies, it bears much fruit.”

This represents the core paradox of Holy Week: finding life through death, glory through surrender, and fruitfulness through letting go. It marks a dramatic shift in how followers are invited to understand greatness.

This is not wisdom the world easily understands. We are taught to hold on, to preserve, and to protect what is ours. But Jesus speaks of a different way. This way requires trust deep enough to release, to fall, to enter the unknown.

And then, for a moment, the veil is pulled back. “Now my soul is troubled,” Jesus says.

This is not a distant or detached Savior, or someone moving toward the cross with ease. There is an honesty here—a vulnerability. Jesus names what we so often try to hide: “My soul is troubled.”

And yet, he does not turn away. “Father, glorify your name.”

A voice answers from heaven. Some hear it as thunder. Others think it is an angel. Not everyone recognizes what is happening. Even in this moment of revelation, there is confusion, misunderstanding, and ambiguity.

And perhaps that, too, is part of the story.

God is at work, but not always in ways we quickly understand. The voice speaks, but not everyone hears it clearly.

At this point, Jesus offers a statement that ties these threads together: “And I, when I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all people to myself. “Here, being lifted up refers to both the cross and ultimate glory.

This statement signals the true turning point in the narrative, connecting the earlier themes with what follows.t.

The Greeks who came seeking to “see” Jesus are, in a sense, answered. They do not get a simple introduction. Instead, they receive a revelation: to truly see Jesus is to see him lifted up, giving himself for the life of the world.

And that vision changes everything.

To see Jesus is not just to observe. It is to be drawn in. To be gathered into this movement of self-giving love.

And so, the question returns to us, as it did that day: “We wish to see Jesus.”

What are we asking for when we say that? Do we want a glimpse of power? A reassurance of certainty? A faith that keeps us comfortable?

Or are we willing to see the one who is lifted up? The one who calls us into a life shaped by surrender, by trust, by love that gives itself away?

Holy Tuesday does not resolve these questions. It places them before us.

It invites us to stand with those first seekers. Voice the same longing. Listen for the answer, not in easy clarity, but in the unfolding mystery of a God who meets us in the paradox of cross and glory.

As we continue this journey through Holy Week, may we have the courage not only to seek Jesus, but to truly see him.

Even when what we see leads us to the cross.

Holy Monday: When Love Fills the House

Holy Monday invites us into a quiet, intimate space, before the crowds swell, before the cries of “Crucify,” before the long shadow of the cross fully settles in. We find ourselves in a home in Bethany, gathered around a table with Jesus Christ, Lazarus of Bethany, Martha of Bethany, and Mary of Bethany.

It is, on the surface, an ordinary moment, a dinner among friends. Martha serves, as she always does. Lazarus reclines at the table, a living testimony to life restored. Jesus is present, sharing in this simple act of fellowship.

And then, everything changes.

Mary takes a pound of costly perfume, pure nard, we are told, something precious, something extravagant. She kneels, anoints Jesus’ feet, and wipes them with her hair. The house is filled with fragrances.

It is a moment of breathtaking vulnerability and devotion.

Mary does not hold back. She does not calculate the cost. She does not worry about how it will look. She responds out of love, lavish, unmeasured love.

And in doing so, she seems to understand something that others do not. She senses what is coming.

While others are still caught up in the excitement, in the hope, in the unfolding signs and wonders, Mary moves with a kind of quiet knowing. Her act is not only one of love, but also an act of preparation.

“Leave her alone,” Jesus says. “She bought it so that she might keep it for the day of my burial.”

Even here, at the table, death is drawing near.

Holy Week always holds this tension. Joy and sorrow sit side by side. Celebration and grief intermingle. The fragrance of devotion fills the air, even as the shadow of the cross lengthens.

And, of course, not everyone understands.

Judas Iscariot raises an objection. Why this waste? Why not sell the perfume and give the money to the poor? On the surface, it sounds reasonable. Practical. Responsible. But the Gospel tells us there is something else at work.

Judas cannot see what Mary sees. He cannot recognize the moment for what it is. Where Mary offers love freely, Judas calculates. Where Mary gives, Judas measures.

And perhaps that is where this story meets us most directly. Because we, too, are often caught between those two ways of being. We know what it is to hold back, to measure, to calculate, to ask whether something is “worth it.” And we also know, at least in glimpses, what it is to give ourselves freely, to love without counting the cost.

Mary shows us what that kind of love looks like. It is embodied. It is risky. It is deeply personal.

It does not stay at a distance. She kneels. She touches. She pours out what is most precious.

And the fragrance fills the house.

That detail is easy to miss, but it matters. Love like this does not remain contained. It spreads. It lingers. It changes the atmosphere.

In the days ahead, there will be other scents, the bitterness of betrayal, the metallic tang of blood, the spices of burial. But for now, the house is filled with fragrance. A sign that even in the face of death, love has already begun its work.

So perhaps the question for us on this Holy Monday is a simple one: What are we holding back? What would it look like to love Christ, not cautiously, not partially, but with the same abandon as Mary? To offer our time, our attention, our resources, our very selves, not because it is efficient or practical, but because it is faithful. And what might happen if that kind of love began to fill our homes, our communities, our lives?

We stand at the beginning of a holy journey. The cross is coming. The tomb is near. But here, in Bethany, we are given this moment, a glimpse of what love looks like in the presence of Jesus. Costly. Vulnerable. Beautiful.

May we have the courage to enter this week with open hearts, willing to pour out what we have, and who we are, trusting that even in the shadow of the cross, love is never wasted.

From Hosanna to Crucify Him

There is something deeply unsettling about Palm Sunday, if we are willing to sit with it long enough.

It begins with real joy, overflowing into the streets—jackets thrown down, branches waving, voices raised: “Hosanna to the Son of David! Blessed is the one who comes in the name of the Lord!”

It feels like a parade. It feels like a protest rally. It feels like a victory march. It feels like everything is finally going right.

And this is the part we love—the celebratory, public, confident faith. The triumph lingers, and we want to linger there too.

But the Church, in her wisdom, or perhaps in her refusal to let us hide from the truth, does not allow us to stay there. Because almost as soon as the palms are raised, the tone shifts. The liturgy changes. The story turns. And we find ourselves no longer in a parade, but in a Passion.

The same voices that cried out “Hosanna” will soon cry out “Crucify him.” And that shift is not just something that happened long ago. It is not just about them. It is about us.

Matthew tells us that when Jesus enters Jerusalem, the whole city is in turmoil. It was Passover and the city was full of people. The word he uses suggests something like an earthquake, a shaking, a disturbance. People are asking, “Who is this?”

And the answer comes: “This is the prophet Jesus from Nazareth in Galilee.”

It is a good answer. A respectful answer. Even a faithful answer. But it is not the whole truth. They see a prophet. They welcome a king. But they do not yet understand a Savior who suffers.

And if we are honest, neither do we.

We want a certain kind of Messiah. We want a Jesus who fixes things. A Jesus who does it all, so we don’t have to. A Jesus who restores order. A Jesus who validates our expectations and affirms our sense of how the world should work. A Jesus who hates the same people we do. We want a king who rides in strength, who conquers, who wins.

But Jesus comes on a donkey. Not by accident. Not because there were no other options. But intentionally, deliberately, prophetically. He is fulfilling the words of the prophet: “Look, your king is coming to you, humble, and mounted on a donkey.”

When the conquerors entered the city they had just conquered, they would ride on a big horse. When a King or a general wanted peace with a city, they would come riding on a donkey, a beast of burden, a beast of humility and peace.

This is not a king who comes in power as the world understands power. This is not a king who comes to dominate. This is not a king who puts his name on buildings. This is not a king who puts his face on gold coins. This is not a king who puts his signature on dollar bills. This is a king who comes in humility.

And that should give us pause. Because humility is not what we usually look for in leadership. It is not what we usually celebrate. It is not what we instinctively trust. We are taught that humility and compassion are weaknesses. We are told that empathy is a sin. And yet, this is how God chooses to enter the city.

But even more than that, Jesus knows exactly where this road leads. He knows the cheers will fade. He knows the crowd will turn. He knows the cross is waiting. And still, he goes. With a smile on his face.

There is something profoundly important in that. This is not a story that spins out of control. This is not a tragedy that catches Jesus by surprise. Jesus is deliberately provoking the authorities with this act. This is a deliberate act of love.

He enters Jerusalem not because things are going well, but because they are about to go terribly wrong, and he refuses to turn away. And then, as we move from the procession into the Passion, Matthew draws us into the story in a way that is almost uncomfortable.

Because we begin to recognize the characters. Judas betrays, but not out of pure malice. Perhaps out of disappointment. Perhaps out of disillusionment. Perhaps because Jesus was not the Messiah he expected.

Peter denies, but not because he does not love Jesus. He does. Deeply. But fear gets the better of him. The disciples scatter, not because they are faithless, but because they are human. And the crowd… the crowd shifts. That is perhaps the hardest part. Because crowds still shift. Public opinion still turns. What is celebrated one moment is condemned the next.

And if we are honest, we know this is not just about ancient Jerusalem. We have all had moments where we have been Judas, choosing something else over Christ. Moments where we have been Peter, failing to stand firm when it mattered most. Moments where we have been part of the crowd, swept along, uncertain, inconsistent.

Palm Sunday forces us to confront that reality. It holds up a mirror and asks, “Where am I in this story?”

But here is where the story refuses to become merely a story about human failure. Because even as all of this unfolds, even as betrayal, denial, abandonment, and injustice take center stage, Jesus remains steadfast.

In the Garden of Gethsemane, we see the most human moment of all. Jesus prays: “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from me.” There is no denial of suffering here. No pretending that this is easy. No spiritual bypassing. Jesus names the pain. He feels the weight of what is coming. He tries to get out of it. He tries to bargain with God.

And then he says: “it’s not what I want Father, but what you want.” That is not resignation. That is trust. Deep, costly, vulnerable trust.

Before Pilate, Jesus stands silent. He does not defend himself with clever arguments or by shouting ‘fake news’. He does not make fun of Pilate and call him crass names. He does not call upon power to save himself. He does not even seem interested in winning, as we understand it.

Because the victory he is seeking is not about avoiding the cross. It is about transforming what the cross represents. It is about turning the symbol of hate into a message of love.

And then we come to the crucifixion itself. A place of shame. A place of humiliation. A place of suffering and death. And this is where our theology is tested. Because we often want to ask: Why does God allow suffering? And that is not a small question. It is not an abstract question. It is a question born out of real pain, real loss, real grief. Experiences we have all had.

Palm Sunday, as we move into the Passion, does not give us a neat or tidy answer. Instead, it gives us something far more challenging and far more profound. It shows us a God who does not stand at a distance from suffering. It shows us a God who enters into it. Fully. Completely. Without holding back.

A God who knows betrayal from the inside. A God who knows what it is to be misunderstood. A God who knows what it is to be abandoned by friends. A God who knows physical pain, emotional anguish, and even the experience of death.

This is not a distant deity. This is Emmanuel, God with us. Even here. Especially here.

And so the question shifts. Not why does God allow suffering? But where is God in the midst of suffering?

And the answer, given to us in the Passion, is this: God is right there. On the cross. In the pain. In the darkness. In the place we would least expect, and often where we least want to look.

And yet, even here, even at the cross, the story is not without hope. Because woven through the Passion are these small, quiet signs that something more is happening. The curtain of the temple will be torn in two. The earth will shake. The centurion will confess: “Truly this man was God’s Son.”

Even in death, something is being revealed. Even in suffering, something is being transformed. And that something is unconditional love for everyone, even those who have put the nails in his hands and feet. Even the ones who betrayed and denied him. And even the ones who ran away and hid.

Palm Sunday invites us to live in the tension that holds together the joy of the procession and the sorrow of the Passion. To resist the temptation to rush too quickly to Easter, while also refusing to believe that Good Friday and the crucifixion are the end of the story.

Because we know, though we do not yet fully celebrate it, that resurrection is coming. Not as an escape from suffering, but as a transformation of it. Not as a denial of death, but as a defeat of it.

So, what does this mean for us? It means that to follow Jesus is not simply to wave palms when it is easy. It is to walk the road when it is hard. It’s to love when love costs something. It’s to forgive when forgiveness feels impossible. It’s to remain present in the face of suffering, our own and that of others. It’s, ultimately, to take up our cross.

And that is not a metaphor we should rush past. Because crosses are heavy. They are real. They are often unwelcome. But they are also the place where transformation happens.

Palm Sunday asks us: What kind of disciples do we want to be? Disciples of convenience? Or disciples of commitment? Followers of a triumphant moment? Or followers of a crucified and risen Lord?

Because the truth is, we cannot have Easter without Good Friday. We cannot have resurrection without the cross. We cannot fully understand the depth of God’s love unless we are willing to walk through the places where that love is most costly.

And yet, here is the grace. We do not walk this road alone. The same Christ who enters Jerusalem walks with us. The same Christ who prays in the garden prays for us. The same Christ who endures the cross meets us in our suffering. And the same Christ who is raised will raise us, too.

So today, as we hold our palms, let us do so with open hearts and open eyes. Let us celebrate, but not superficially. Let us reflect, but not despair. Let us commit ourselves again to following Jesus, not just in the moments of joy, but in the moments of challenge, of uncertainty, and even of suffering.

Because this is the road to which we are called. A road that leads through Jerusalem. Through the garden. Through the cross. And, by the grace of God, to the empty tomb.

Amen.

What is Passiontide?

Passiontide arrives quietly, quietly enough to be overlooked, yet it stirs a deep longing inside us for meaning and presence. It demands not just attention, but the vulnerability of our whole selves.

For many, Passiontide is simply the last stretch of Lent, the final two weeks before Easter when the liturgical tone deepens, and the shadows lengthen. It begins on the Fifth Sunday of Lent and carries us, step by deliberate step, toward the cross. But to describe it merely as a span of days on the Church calendar is to miss its invitation entirely. Passiontide is not just something we observe, it is something we enter.

The word comes from “Passion,” from the Latin passio, meaning “to suffer.” Here, we must be careful. Today, passion is often reduced to enthusiasm, strong feelings, or even romance. In the life of faith, Passion means self-giving love, a love willing to endure, to suffer, and to stay steadfast, even when the cost is great. Passiontide calls us to contemplate not only what Christ endured, but why.

During this time, the Church subtly shifts. Crosses may be veiled. The language of the liturgy grows more somber, more direct. Something seems hidden, or, more truthfully, slowly revealed, so its weight does not overwhelm us. We are being prepared.

And what are we being prepared for? Here, the focus shifts: it is not just the remembrance of an event, but an encounter with the depth of divine love.

Passiontide asks us to walk more closely with Jesus as he turns his face toward Jerusalem. In doing so, we are pulled into the tension of those final days: the sting of rejection, the ache of misunderstandings, the deepening loneliness settling on him. Instead of rushing ahead to the empty tomb, we are urged to pause with him in this heaviness, resisting the urge to flee from discomfort in our anticipation of the coming joy.

Because the truth is, we are often tempted to do just that in our own lives.

We long for resurrection without the agony of crucifixion; we crave healing without facing the wound, justice without any sacrifice. But Passiontide resists our escape. It forces us to sit in the harsh reality of suffering, Christ’s and our own, exposing our ache, our fear, our hope for relief. Only by remaining here do we witness love’s power: love that enters pain and, steadfast, refuses to turn away.

At this point, Passiontide becomes deeply personal.

It is a time to examine the places where we resist the cross, not just in some abstract theological sense, but in real ways. Sometimes we hide our true pain behind a strong front, avoid costly compassion even as our hearts ache for connection, or turn away from another’s suffering out of fear or exhaustion. Passiontide challenges us to ask: Where am I being called to love more deeply, even when it hurts? What am I holding onto, resentment, pride, comfort, that keeps me from fully following Christ? Whose suffering am I ignoring because facing it feels overwhelming or too raw?

Yet, it is important to remember that Passiontide is not about guilt. Instead, it offers clarity.

As distractions fall away, we begin to feel, with aching clarity, both the tenderness of Christ’s love and the longing for our own hearts to reach it. Even this gap becomes an unexpected grace. It tugs at us tenderly, urging us closer, and gently assures us we do not walk this path alone.

There is also a profound tenderness in Passiontide. For all its solemnity, it is not devoid of hope. In fact, hope sustains it. We walk toward the cross, knowing it is not the end of the story. But this knowledge does not diminish the journey. It deepens it. It lets us face suffering honestly, without despair, because we trust in what God is doing through it.

Passiontide teaches us that love is not proven in ease, but in endurance. It is revealed not only in grand gestures, but in quiet, persistent choices. We remain present, to God, to one another, and to the world’s brokenness.

Having explored these aspects, we might now ask: So what is Passiontide?

It is a threshold.

It is the space between what has been and what will be, where we are invited to let go of illusions and encounter sacrificial love. It is a time to walk more slowly, pray more deeply, and open our hearts more fully to the mystery of a God who enters suffering with us.

If we allow it, if we truly open ourselves to Passiontide, it will change us. This change isn’t sudden or easy. It settles in quietly, shaping us with the gentle persistence unique to love.

By the time we arrive at Easter, the question may change. It is no longer simply what Passiontide is, but who we have become because we walked through it.

Jesus Began to Weep: A Reflection on John 11:35

There are moments in Scripture that are so brief we might be tempted to pass over them. A verse tucked between longer passages. A sentence that seems almost too simple to carry much weight. And yet, John 11:35 “Jesus began to weep” may be one of the most profound verses in all the Gospels.

In that moment, we encounter Jesus not as teacher, not as miracle worker, not even as the one who will, in just a few breaths, call Lazarus from the tomb, but as one who grieves.

The setting, of course, is the death of Lazarus. Jesus has come to Bethany. He spoke with Martha and soon will speak with Mary. He knows what he is about to do. He knows that death will not have the final word. And still, he weeps.

That is what makes this verse so striking.

Jesus does not rush past grief on the way to resurrection. He does not dismiss sorrow because he knows how the story ends. He pauses. He feels. He mourns.

“Jesus began to weep.”

Depending on the translation, the Greek here can also carry the sense of being deeply moved, even troubled. This is not a polite tear. This is the ache, the deep ache of love in the face of loss. The pain of standing with those who grieve. The weight of a world where death still wounds, even when it does not win.

And perhaps that is where this verse meets us most directly.

Because we live in a world where grief is not theoretical. It is real. It is present. It shows up in hospital rooms and quiet houses, in broken relationships, in the slow ache of loneliness, and in the sudden shock of loss. We carry it in ways both visible and hidden.

And into that reality, this verse speaks a simple, profound truth: God is not distant from our sorrow.

In Jesus, God does not stand apart from human suffering. God enters it. God feels it. God weeps.

There is something deeply comforting about that, not because it removes the pain, but because it assures us we do not bear it alone. The tears of Jesus are not a sign of weakness; they are a sign of divine compassion. A reminder that love always risks grief.

And yet, this is not the end of the story.

The one who weeps is also the one who calls Lazarus out of the tomb. The tears of Jesus exist alongside the promise of life. Grief and hope are not opposites here; they are held together.

Which may be one of the hardest and most holy truths of our faith: we are not asked to choose between sorrow and hope. We are invited to live in both.

We are invited to weep, and to trust.
To mourn, and to believe.
To stand at the tomb and still listen for the voice that calls forth life.

So perhaps John 11:35 is not just something to remember. It is something to practice.

To allow ourselves to feel what we feel.
To be present with those who grieve, not with easy answers, but with quiet compassion.
To trust that even in our tears, Christ is near.

“Jesus began to weep.”

And in those tears, we discover a God who understands, a Savior who stands with us, and a love that refuses to let even death have the final word.

Living Water: Returning to God with Our Whole Heart

John 4:5–42

I am not sure how many times I have preached from this passage from the Gospel of John we heard this morning, but I learned something new this week in my preparation. I guess you can teach old dog new tricks.

And that is the beauty of Scripture: just when you believe you have understood everything, it reveals a new message to you. This reminds us that its core invitation is always unfolding.

But, before we get that, I want us to go back to Ash Wednesday, back to the start of Lent just 3 weeks ago, for on that day we heard one of the great invitations of Lent, and it comes to us from the prophet Joel:

“Return to me with all your heart.”

That simple phrase echoes through the whole season of Lent. It is not merely a call to repentance in the narrow sense of feeling sorry for what we have done and the things we have not done. It is something much deeper. Joel is calling us to return, to turn our whole lives back toward God.

Not halfway. Not cautiously. But with everything.

And that invitation comes alive for us in today’s Gospel from the fourth chapter of John. This is a long passage rich with theological and spiritual understanding, and I wish there was more time to dig in, to go deeper, to spend a little more time just listening to what God is trying to tell us.

Jesus travels through Samaria and stops at a well in Sychar at noon. A Samaritan woman comes alone to draw water, which is unusual, since women normally come together in the morning or evening. Her solitude suggests some isolation from her community.

And then, in this unexpected setting, Jesus does something remarkable. He speaks to her.

Now we should not miss how shocking this moment would have been. A rabbi speaking publicly with a Samaritan woman crossed several cultural boundaries at once. Jews and Samaritans lived with centuries of mistrust and hostility. Men rarely initiated public conversation with women they did not know. Yet here is Jesus, sitting at a well, asking her for a drink.

But as is often the case, Jesus turns things on their heads.

The conversation that follows becomes one of the longest theological dialogues in the entire Gospel. Jesus tells her:

“If you knew the gift of God… you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.”

At first, she misunderstands. Maybe she is taken aback because a Jewish man is speaking to her. But she thinks Jesus is speaking about ordinary water, the water just there in the well.  After all, the well is deep, and Jesus has nothing with which to draw from it. But Jesus is pointing to something deeper.

He is speaking about the thirst that lives inside every human heart.

We know this thirst: a longing for meaning, belonging, love, peace, to matter, and not feel alone.

We try to satisfy this thirst with success, possessions, recognition, relationships, or distractions. Some are good but don’t satisfy the soul’s deeper thirst.

Jesus says:

“Those who drink of the water that I will give them will never be thirsty.”

He is speaking about the life of God flowing within us.

But before the woman can receive this living water, something else must happen. Jesus gently brings her face-to-face with the truth of her own life.

“Go, call your husband.”

What follows reveals the complexity of her story. She has had five husbands, and the man she now lives with is not her husband.

This, for me, is where I noticed something new.

In John’s eyes, she is a nobody; he does not even give her a name. Her gender, religious orientation, social standing, and personal habits distance her from Jesus and from her community. When reading this story, one understands that people in her own community try to avoid her. No one comes to draw water in the heat of the day!

And based on very little information, we judge her and her life.

For centuries, preachers and others have used this moment to shame her, but the Gospel does not invite us to judge her. In fact, in the world of the first century, a woman rarely had the power to initiate divorce. Her situation may say more about the instability and vulnerability of her life than about moral failure.

For centuries, this woman has been judged, and we do not even know her name. The focus is on her so-called sin, even though we have no idea what the backstory is. What about her other husbands? Where are they? Do they face the same shame that she does? My guess is no.

She lives in a male-dominated society, with no rights, as property of her father, then her husband. She cannot escape a bad situation or choose her fate. Marriages were arranged, with little role for love.

But here we sit, in a long line of people who have prejudged this woman. We know nothing about her; we do not even know her name. Yet, because she is a woman, she is considered expendable.

But this story, this passage, is good news for anyone who may have felt humiliation of stigmatization or the pain of being judged by people who only see what they want to see.

What Jesus does here is not condemnation but recognition. He sees her—her pain, history, and truth. He does not turn away but engages and continues speaking, revealing himself. He takes her seriously, maybe for the first time. Her community and welfare matter a lot to Jesus.

Jesus does not see her for what she has done; Jesus sees her for who she is, a beloved child of God.

This is the moment where the connection to the prophet Joel becomes clear.

“Return to me with all your heart.”

Returning to God means bringing our whole selves into the presence of God, not the polished version we show the world, but the real story of our lives. The broken bits. The complicated relationships. The doubts and wounds we would rather hide. All the stuff we do not want anyone to know about.

Notice what happens next: the Samaritan woman brings her whole story into this encounter. The conversation shifts to questions of worship—whether God should be worshipped on Mount Gerizim or in Jerusalem—and Jesus responds with words that still echo in Christian faith today:

“The hour is coming when true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth.”

Spirit and truth. Truth means honesty before God. Spirit means openness to the transforming presence of God.

And then comes the most astonishing moment in the story. The woman speaks about the coming Messiah, and Jesus tells her plainly:

“I am he.”

In the Gospel of John, this is one of the earliest and clearest revelations of Jesus’ identity, given not to a religious leader or a disciple, but to a Samaritan woman drawing water at a well. She becomes, in that moment, the first evangelist to her town.

I am not sure we understand how astonishing that is. Jesus revealed himself to a nobody, a person shunned by society because of her past. There is an echo here of his own story through his mother. Mary had nothing and, at great personal risk, said yes to God.

The Woman at the well had nothing, and Jesus gave her everything.

She leaves her water jar behind and runs back to the city, saying, “Come and see a man who told me everything I have ever done.”

Notice the unfinishedness of that statement, especially knowing what we know about her. “Come and see a man who told me everything I ever did… and loved me anyway!” She does not need to say the last part; however, her action implies those words, as she is filled with joy and runs back to town.

“Everything she ever did” is a long list; it is common knowledge in her village, it is always before her, in every judgmental glance or knowing stare from her neighbors. Jesus, knowing this is not extraordinary, but Jesus knowing this and loving her anyway, is the remarkable part. The one who knew “everything she ever did” and loved her anyway, saved her life.

And notice one very important thing, Jesus never asked her to confess, to turn back from her “sinful ways,” and he never offers her a word of forgiveness, just nonjudgmental love and acceptance, that’s it.

As she gets up, she leaves her jar behind. She came to draw water to sustain her life, but she left with water that would give her eternal life. She is now the jar that will bring that same water to others.

She no longer hides her story. The very thing that once isolated her becomes the doorway through which others encounter Christ. And many believe because of her testimony. Many are drawn to him and come to hear more; they want the water, too.

That is what happens when someone truly returns to God with their whole heart: shame gives way to freedom, isolation gives way to community, and thirst gives way to living water. The key message is clear—God desires the authentic, entire self we bring, not just the polished parts.

Lent offers us this same invitation. Like the woman at the well, we’re being called to sit with Christ and let him speak truth into our lives—not to condemn, but to transform.

The good news of the Gospel is that God already knows our story and still offers us living water.

So, the question Lent places before us is simple and direct: What would it mean for us to return to God with everything, holding nothing back? This is the heart of today’s message.

Not just the parts of our lives we are proud of. But the whole story.

Because it is there, at the well of honesty and grace, that Christ is waiting to meet us.

Amen

Blessed are the peacemakers

Well, here we are. Another Sunday and another hastily rewritten sermon because of a catastrophic world event. I cannot count the number of times I have had to rewrite sermons based on changes in the world but, here we are. Bombs are dropping, human beings are dying, and, some people are rejoicing.

It appears a man who perpetrated evil on an immense scale has been killed. However, as followers of the Prince of Peace, we cannot rejoice in the death of another human. Rather, let us say, “May his name and memory be blotted out.”

But let us not forget the words from Jesus we heard this morning from the Gospel of Matthew, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God.”

Those words are short. Simple. Almost gentle.

But do not mistake their gentleness for weakness.

In these deeply troubling days, as violence escalates in this new war involving Iran and others in the region, Jesus’ words land with sharp urgency. They are not abstract spirituality. They are not poetic sentiment. They are a summons.

“Blessed are the peacemakers.”

Not blessed are the powerful.
Not blessed are the warmongers.
Not blessed are the victorious.
Not blessed are those who dominate the battlefield.

Blessed are the peacemakers.

When Jesus speaks these words in the Sermon on the Mount, he is not addressing emperors or generals. He is speaking to ordinary people living under Roman occupation. People who knew military presence in their streets. People who understood that decisions made in distant halls of power could disrupt, wound, or even end their lives.

They knew what it meant to live beneath empire. And to them, to people without armies, without influence in imperial courts, Jesus says: you are blessed when you make peace. That alone should unsettle us.

Because in our world, blessing is often equated with strength, leverage, dominance, and victory. But Jesus redefines blessing as he does with so many thngs. He locates it not in conquest, but in reconciliation.

We must be clear: peacemaking is not passive. It is not pretending that injustice does not exist. It is not moral equivalence. It is not naïve optimism.

Peacemaking is active. It is courageous. It is costly. It is easier to escalate than to de-escalate. It is easier to retaliate than to restrain. It is easier to wrap violence in patriotic or ideological language than to do the patient, frustrating, fragile work of diplomacy.

War promises clarity. It promises resolution through force. It promises strength.

History teaches us otherwise.

War spreads. It destabilizes. It wounds generations. The cost is borne not only by leaders and governments, but by families, by children, by the vulnerable, by those whose names we will never know but whose lives are precious to God.

The Rev. Karen Georgia Thompson, General Minister and President of the United Church of Christ, spoke words that name this moral reality with clarity: “We call for an end to the abuse of government might that is poured out on people who are not the ones making decisions yet bear the brunt of the ensuing violence, casualties of actions they do not support.”

That is not partisan speech. That is prophetic truth.

Too often, those who suffer most are not those who decide. Civilians become casualties. Infrastructure collapses. Children inherit trauma. Entire communities are destabilized by forces far beyond their control.

And the Gospel insists that those lives matter.

And what happens next? What is our responsibility as the ones who caused the destabilization of another country? What is our obligation to the people we say we just freed from a mad man? What will the cost be in human lives, in tax dollars, in moral certainty? Dropping the bombs is the easy part, cleaning up the mess created by those bombs is hard and costly.

When Jesus calls peacemakers blessed, he is not offering a political slogan. He is revealing the character of God.

Children resemble their parents. To be called children of God is to reflect God’s heart. And the heart of God is not bent toward destruction, but toward reconciliation.

Throughout Scripture, we encounter a God who hears the cry of the oppressed. A God who sends prophets to interrupt violence. A God who calls nations to account. A God who declares that swords shall be beaten into plowshares.

And in Jesus Christ, we see that heart embodied. We follow the One who told Peter to put away the sword. We follow the One who wept over Jerusalem’s coming violence. We follow the One who forgave even from the cross.

If we claim his name, we cannot treat peacemaking as optional.

Now, let us be honest: this is not simple.

There are real threats in our world. There are dangerous regimes. There are injustices that must be confronted. Peacemaking does not mean ignoring evil. It does not mean abandoning accountability. It does not mean leaving the vulnerable unprotected.

But neither does it mean baptizing every escalation as righteousness.

Peacemaking asks deeper questions.

What will actually protect the innocent? What will actually preserve life? What will interrupt the cycle rather than intensify it?

And perhaps most importantly: who bears the cost?

If the cost is poured out upon people who are not making decisions, if it falls upon families, upon children, upon the elderly, upon those simply trying to live, then we must ask whether we are reflecting the heart of God.

Jesus does not say, “Blessed are those who win.” He says, “Blessed are the peacemakers.”

The Greek word suggests those who actively create peace, who forge it, who build it, who labor for it. Peace is not merely the absence of war. It is the presence of justice, dignity, and right relationship.

Shalom. Wholeness. Flourishing.

That kind of peace requires imagination, the imagination to believe enemies can become neighbors, that diplomacy is not weakness, that restraint can be strength. It requires humility, the humility to admit that no nation is ultimate. No ideology is sovereign. No military is redemptive.

Only God is sovereign.

But here is the harder truth.

Peacemaking does not begin in foreign policy. It begins in the human heart.

Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount moves from interior transformation to outward action. Anger, contempt, lust for domination, these are seeds. The seeds of violence are planted long before armies mobilize.

They are planted in narratives of fear. In language that strips others of humanity. In the slow erosion of empathy.

Are we cultivating peace in our own lives? Or are we nurturing resentment? Are we quick to demonize entire peoples? Quick to assume the worst? Quick to reduce complex human beings into caricatures?

The Church must resist that erosion.

We must insist that every life, Iranian, Israeli, American, Palestinian, every life is held within the love of God. We must insist that no child is expendable, and that includes those sexually abused by the privileged class. We must insist that no bomb carries righteousness within it.

The Sanskrit word “Namaste” is often translated as the phrase, “the spirit in me recognizes the spirit in you.” This is a profound translation as it signifies that a shared divine light, or soul exists within all individuals, transcending physical differences to foster mutual respect, equality, and connection.

As a follower of Jesus, commanded to love everyone including our enemies, we must see that divine light in the other person and we must foster mutual respect, equality, and connection.

And we must pray, not as an afterthought, not to avoid engagement, but as a discipline that shapes our hearts toward compassion rather than vengeance.

To pray for peace is to allow God to rearrange our instincts. To be peacemakers is to live in tension. It is to refuse simplistic binaries. It is to acknowledge complexity without surrendering to cynicism.

It is to speak when silence would be easier.

It may cost us. It may cost us popularity. It may cost us comfort. It may cost us the ease of aligning uncritically with national narratives. But Jesus never promised that blessing and ease were the same thing. He promised that those who resemble the heart of God would be called God’s children.

“Blessed are the peacemakers.”

Blessed are those who defend the innocent who bear the brunt of decisions they did not make. Blessed are those who advocate restraint when the drums of war grow loud. Blessed are those who insist that diplomacy is not weakness but wisdom. Blessed are those who believe that love is stronger than fear.

They shall be called children of God. Not because they fix every geopolitical crisis. Not because they eliminate conflict overnight. But because in their lives, the family resemblance becomes visible.

The Church may not control governments. But we shape consciences. We form hearts. We proclaim another way. And in times like these, that witness matters profoundly.

So, what does peacemaking look like for us?

It looks like praying for leaders, that they will pursue de-escalation and dialogue with courage equal to the courage required for war. It looks like refusing dehumanizing rhetoric. It looks like educating ourselves beyond slogans. It looks like supporting humanitarian efforts that care for those caught in conflict. It looks like forming our children not in hatred, but in empathy.

It looks like examining our own hearts and asking ourselves questions. Where am I harboring contempt and for whom? Where have I grown numb to suffering because it feels distant? Where have I confused strength with aggression?

Peacemaking begins there. And then it radiates outward.

In a world trembling under the weight of violence, perhaps the most radical act of faith is to believe that peace is still possible. Not inevitable. But possible.

Because the resurrection tells us that violence does not have the final word. Because the cross reveals that love is willing to absorb hatred rather than perpetuate it. Because the Spirit continues to work in hearts and in history.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God.”

May we live so that the name fits. May our words reflect mercy. May our advocacy reflect justice. May our prayers reflect courage.

And may our lives, in ways large and small, bear witness to the God whose deepest desire is not destruction — but reconciliation.

Amen.

What to Give Up for Lent: A Rule of Life for the Season

Lent is not about proving spiritual discipline or earning God’s favor. It is about honest self-examination, repentance that leads to repair, and practices that restore right relationship, with God, with others, and with ourselves. What we give up should serve love, not ego.

1. Give Up Certainty

Release the need to have every theological, moral, or political question resolved. Lent invites humility, the recognition that God is always larger than our conclusions.

“Now we see in a mirror, dimly.” (1 Corinthians 13:12)

2. Give Up Moral Superiority

Let go of the comfort that comes from being “right.” Righteousness in the Gospel is not about winning arguments but about practicing mercy.

3. Give Up Indifference

Especially toward the suffering of the poor, the marginalized, the imprisoned, the sick, and the forgotten. Lent asks us not merely to feel compassion, but to act.

“Let justice roll down like waters.” (Amos 5:24)

4. Give Up Performative Faith

Step away from public displays of piety meant to reassure others, or ourselves, of our holiness. God is encountered in the quiet work of love and integrity.

5. Give Up Despair Disguised as Realism

Cynicism often masquerades as wisdom. Lent calls us to stubborn hope, even when the world gives us every reason to give up.

6. Give Up the Rush

Resist the culture of constant productivity and urgency. Make space for prayer, silence, rest, and unstructured time—trusting that God works beyond our schedules.

7. Give Up Easy Enemies

Stop reducing complex people and systems to villains. Lent asks us to see even those we oppose as human beings, without surrendering our moral convictions.

8. Give Up Silence in the Face of Injustice

While Lent calls us to silence before God, it also calls us to speech when others are harmed. Discern when quiet becomes complicity.

9. Give Up Cheap Forgiveness

Forgiveness without truth is not healing. Lent invites us to practice reconciliation that includes accountability, repair, and changed behavior.

10. Give Up the Illusion of Self-Sufficiency

We are not meant to save ourselves. Lent reminds us that grace is received, not achieved.

“My grace is sufficient for you.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

11. Give Up Dehumanizing Language

Refuse speech that reduces people to labels, ideologies, or stereotypes. Lent is a season for restoring dignity through words.

12. Give Up Fear-Based Faith

Let go of theology rooted primarily in punishment, exclusion, or anxiety. The Gospel begins and ends in love.

“Perfect love casts out fear.” (1 John 4:18)

To give something up for Lent is not to become smaller, harsher, or more austere. It is to become more human, more honest, and more available to the Spirit of God who is always making all things new.

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