Bullied to Death

Last Thursday on the Dr. Phil Show, Dr. Phil McGraw focused on school bullying and how we can deal with it. We were all shocked by the recent suicide of Phoebe Prince from South Hadley, Massachusetts. The Great and General Court of Massachusetts has reacted by passing the anti bullying act that puts strict requirements on Parents, Teachers, and Administrators and levies some pretty hefty sentences on all of the above, including the bullier if they get caught.

Now let me say that some level of bullying is part of growing up. Kids will be kids, but it can get out of hand. One of the discussion points during the show was how to deal with the bully. You need to stand up to the bully yes, but they also should be reported.

Sometimes I think we legislate responsibility away from the place where it needs to be. First bully have parents, and those parents needs to teach that bullying is wrong, and I also believe that if your kid bullies someone, and in the case of Phoebe, bullies them to death, then not only should the kid be sent away to make small rocks from big one, but you should as well. Parents, you have a responsibility to raise your children to be productive members of society and they need to learn that their actions have consequences.

We all like to laugh at people and adults can be just as bad, and now we have seen the consequences of such actions. Kids have a difficult enough time just being kids and all of the pressure we put on them and they put on themselves. Several years ago two kids shot up their high school because their were picked on, and the stories are legion. My point is we cannot legislate good parenting.

I have heard stories of little league teams where no one looses because it is bad for the kids to loose. Well you know what, people loose and they loose everyday. It is how we deal with that loss that makes us who we are. Success is standing on the top of a pile of failures. We need to teach our kids right and wrong and that there are consequences for their actions. Parents you need to be parents and not friends, they have enough friends they need parents.

Dr. Phil has put some resources on his site and I recommend them to you. Watch your kids, talk to them, be involved in their life. They might hate you now but they will love you for it latter.

Dr. Phil Resources:

Warning Signs of Bullying
Dealing with Bullies
Sample Anti-Bullying Letter
Helping Teens Survive High School Cattiness
Dos and Don’ts for Dealing with Suicide
Suicide Warning Signs
Suicide Myths
Suicide: Warning Signs and What to Do
Teens under Pressure
The Dark Side of Teens
Easy Methods to Alleviate Stress
Dealing with Anger and Guilt after a Suicide
Experiencing Grief after Loss

Put No Trust In Princes

Many of you know that I began my seminary studies at St. John’s Seminary in Brighton, Massachusetts. St. John’s is the seminary of the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Boston. I started in August of 2001. Not long after I started the events of September 11th happened and then in January of 2002 the clergy abuse scandal broke in the news. Now all these years latter it is in full swing again.

One of the things that amazes me about the entire situation is the number of people who left the church because of the abuse. The title of this post is Put No Trust in Princes. If your faith lies in the Institutional Church you will be let down at every turn. Why do I say that, because human beings are in charge of it and we are flawed. Your faith belongs in one man and one man only and that is Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

I have often said that the wheels came off the wagon for the church the day after the Ascension. It was the first full day that humans were in charge of the church and if you read Acts you will see that the arguments began almost right away. The Hellenists complained that their widows were not getting attention. The Gentiles complained that they should not have to follow the laws of the Jews and so on. I will say again, if your faith is in the Institutional Church then you will be let down.

Orthodox and Catholic Theology states that the priest stands In Person Christi, in the person of Christ. Not that the priest is another Christ, but the priest stands in for Christ. The Sacraments of the church do not rely on the Holiness of the Priest, thanks be to God for that! We pray to God that my insignificance and sins should not be held against anyone. The Holy Spirit is the one who “performs” if you will the Sacrament, I am just the vessel that is used by the Holy Spirit. I can be the most horrible wretch on the face of the earth, yet the Sacraments are valid and Grace filled because they do not rely on me but on the Holy Spirit.

If you belong to a church because of a person or a program, then you belong for the wrong reason. You should find a church whose theology you agree with regardless of the priest, minister, rabbi, Imam, or what have you. We do need community as this is where we live out our spirituality but I say again you should not belong to a church simply because you like the guy who stands in front.

The Institutional Church is as flawed, if not more so, than any other corporation in the world. The Devil is after the church, and make no mistake about it, sin comes from the Devil! Yes the Devil is real and sin is real! The Devil wants nothing more than to bring the church down. Each time a person leaves the church, and does not return, the Devil rejoices.

I am not saying that people should not be held accountable for their actions, no I am saying the opposite. Clergy, Priests, Bishops, Popes, etc are held to a higher standard. We are the moral leaders of the community and we should be held to a higher standard. To my clergy brothers and sisters who read this, if you do not want to be held to that standard it is time to find another line of work. It is hard being in the spotlight, but we chose this and we knew this coming in. Yes when the church fails it hurts, the cover up, the lies, the tom foolery that goes on needs to stop.

I submit that anyone who abused, covered up abuse, or in anyway tried to hide things from proper authority should be removed from their position in the Church. The Church needs to come clean and open the records of all and for all to see. The best disinfectant is sun light. The Church, and by that I mean all Churches because believe it or not, all of our churches are guilty of this, needs to come clean and repent of her sins.

If you are considering leaving your church because of something that someone has done, I would ask you to reconsider and to stay because of something that someone has done. Jesus Christ died for your sins and mine. For the Popes sins, for the bishops sins, and for the priests sins. Jesus is the reason one attends church not a man or a woman who stands in front and leads the church. You will be disappointed in the flawed nature of that person. Listen we all make mistakes, and clergy are no different.

Put no trust in Princes. Put your trust in Our Lord God and Savior Jesus Christ. He is the only one that will not let you down!

Holy Week and Easter, a Reflection

Well it is now Thursday of Bright Week and I am able to reflect back on the past week in the Church.

Holy Week here is full of all sorts of activities that start off easy and get more difficult as time goes on. We begin on Palm Sunday with the regular Divine Liturgy with the addition of the blessing of the Palms. Then the Bridegroom Matins Services begin. Sunday night, Monday night, and Tuesday night see the same service. It is dark in the church and peaceful as we prepare ourselves for Christ to come. I really like this service as it sets the tone in a great way for the coming week.

After each service is a time for confession and this year I think I heard almost every confession in the church. It seems that every other year or so more people come to confession. Those of you who are in Churches that do not have Sacramental Confession have no idea what you are missing. None of us like to go to confession because we do not like to admit we make mistakes but to a person, everyone felt better afterwards. It is also a grace filled moment for me to stand there with them as they confess and offer some words of encouragement. I never know what I am going to say but the Holy Spirit has not let me down yet.

Wednesday is the Unction Service. This is a great gift to the Church. I love this service and I am committed to serving this more than one time each year. We bless the oil with seven prayers and then each person comes forward for the anointing for healing of body, mind, and soul. I think we feel that this is what you get when you are dying, how sad that is, it can be used for any illness or before surgery. People will take some of the oil home to use on loved ones. I think it is the most beautiful of services during the whole of Holy Week.

The Liturgies of Thursday and Friday are filled with images of trial and Crucifixion. We are reminded again and again what Jesus did for each one of us and how much he loves us. On Thursday night we sing what are called the Lamentations. This is a series of lines of lamentation that are sung at the funeral of Jesus. The priest stands in front of the Tomb and the entire congregation sings this. Well that is what is supposed to happen. We decided this year to re print the books we use, and the musical genius that I am, when I typed the phrases out they were a tad off. So far off that it was impossible to sing! Man it was bad! So we recited the lamentations and we quickly moved on to the next thing. Man it was painful. It will be corrected for next year, trust me!

Saturday is a slow day as we prepare for the evening service. Last year we moved this service from 11:30pm to 9:00pm and it has worked out great. I am glad we made this move. The service is one of darkness and light and is rich with the images of the risen Christ as we gather outside the church and read the Resurrection Gospel and sing CHRIST IS RISEN! for the first time. All the lights in the church are lit and the service moves one. After we have a meal together in the parish hall and continue the celebration of the Risen Christ.

Sunday morning comes and we serve Agape Vespers. It is odd to have a Vespers service at 11:00am but that is Holy Week and Easter. Times does not matter. The highlight of this service is reading the Gospel in as many languages as possible. This year we had, English, Spanish, Romanian, Latin, and French. I have to say we were blessed. I was sad that we did not have anyone to read the Romanian, and it would have been the first time in the history of this church that the Gospel was not read in Romanian, but God is good and sent a wonderful young man named Nick to read the Gospel in Romanian.

So that was it. The week was a blessing as we saw people reconciled to the church and to each other and we had some Spirit filled Liturgies. Attendance was okay and I was happy for that. The Church looked beautiful and we praised God and sang Christ is Risen from the Dead! What more could you want.

Great and Holy Friday

When Friday dawned, Christ was sent bound from Caiaphas to Pontius Pilate, who was then Governor of Judea. Pilate interrogated Him in many ways, and once and again acknowledged that He was innocent, but to please the Jews, he later passed the sentence of death against Him. After scourging the Lord of all as though He were a runaway slave, he surrendered Him to be crucified.

Thus the Lord Jesus was handed over to the soldiers, was stripped of His garments, was clothed in a purple robe, was crowned with a wreath of thorns, had a reed placed in His hand as though it were a sceptre, was bowed before in mockery, was spat upon, and was buffeted in the face and on the head. Then they again clothed Him in His own garments, and bearing the cross, He came to Golgotha, a place of condemnation, and there, about the third hour, He was crucified between two thieves. Although both blasphemed Him at the first, the thief at His right hand repented, and said: “Remember me, O Lord, when Thou comest in Thy Kingdom,” to which our Saviour answered, “Today shalt thou be with Me in Paradise.” As He hung upon the Cross, He was blasphemed by those who were passing by, was mocked by the high priests, and by the soldiers was given vinegar to drink mixed with gall. About the ninth hour, He cried out with a loud voice, saying, “It is finished.” And the Lamb of God “Which taketh away the sin of the world” (John 1:29) expired on the day when the moon was full, and at the hour when, according to the Law, was slain the Passover lamb, which was established as a type of Him in the time of Moses.
Even lifeless creation mourned the death of the Master, and it trembled and was altered out of fear. Yet, even though the Maker of creation was already dead, they pierced Him in His immaculate side, and forthwith came there out Blood and Water. Finally, at about the setting of the sun, Joseph of Arimathea came with Nicodemus (both of them had been secret disciples of Jesus), and they took down the all-holy Body of the Teacher from the Cross and anointed it with aromatic spices, and wrapped it in a clean linen cloth. When they had buried Him in a new tomb, they rolled a great stone over its entrance.

Such are the dread and saving sufferings of our Lord Jesus Christ commemorated today, and in remembrance of them, we have received the Apostolic commandment that a fast be observed every Friday.

The Holy Light of Jerusalem brought to Bucharest on Easter

30/3/2010
Romanian Orthodox Church

In order to increase the joy of the clergy and faithful at the Holy Easter, on Saturday night, 3 April 2010, a delegation of the Romanian Patriarchate headed by His Grace Bishop Varsanufie Prahoveanul, Assistant Bishop to the Archdiocese of Bucharest will bring the Holy Light from the Church of the Holy Sepulchre of Jerusalem, by a special plane, with the blessing of His Beatitude Patriarch Daniel – informs the Press Office of the Romanian Patriarchate.

His Beatitude Patriarch Daniel will offer the Holy Light to the clergy and faithful present at the Patriarchal Cathedral during the Resurrection service (midnight).

The deaneries of the Archdiocese of Bucharest and of some other Eparchies within the Romanian Patriarchate are invited to send delegates to the Henri Coandă International Airport on 3 April 2010, in the evening, in order to receive the Holy Light from Jerusalem and offer it to the Romanian Orthodox priests and faithful from some other parts of the country.

The event is part of the series of manifestations of 2010 that the Holy Synod declared Homage Year of the Orthodox Creed and of the Romanian Autocephaly.

New Romanian Saints

As the true horror of Communism is starting to unfold, new Martyrs for the faith are being revealed. No doubt there will be more as time passes. Here are three new saints in the Romanian Orthodox Church.

Father Hilarion the Confessor

He was born on March 21, 1903, in a village in Hunedoara county in Romania. His father was a priest. In 1926 he graduated from the Faculty of Theology of Sibiu. On July 29, 1927 he was ordained priest. On October 30, 1939 he submitted his doctoral thesis, titled Repentance: Theological and Psychological Approach. He had also written the book Towards Tabor, which is, according to Elder Justin Pirvou the best work to date about Romanian Orthodoxy and a perfect interpretation of the Philokalia. Speaking about the exalted spirituality of Father Hilarion, the greatest Romanian Orthodox theologian of the twentieth century, Father Dumitru Staniloae said: “Father Hilarion has surpassed me.” He was professor of the Theological School of Arad from 1938 until 1948. On September 25, 1958 he was imprisoned and sentenced, along with six other priests from Arad, for a 20 year sentence. He was detained in Gerla and then Aiount, where he died on September 18, 1961. He was buried without a cross, in a grave that is unknown, along with other witnesses of the Romanian nation in Aiount.

Abbot Daniel Tudor

He was born on December 22, 1896 in Bucharest. After the First World War he studied at the Academy of Fine Arts. In the year 1929 he traveled to Mount Athos, where he lived for eight months. God saved him often from a violent death. Once, flying his own plane, he was saved from death, saying the noetic prayer. While the airplane was destroyed, he did not suffer anything.

After the Second World War, returning to his house, he learned that his wife had left him. He then decided to become a monk. He sold all his belongings, renewed the Antim Monastery in Bucharest, and became a monk there. From the year 1945, the monastery gathered around it a group of scholars, which was trying to regain, based on the Bible and the Holy Fathers of Orthodox Christianity, true spirituality, having as a center of their efforts the noetic prayer. They were called The Fiery Rug. Later he went to the Sychastria Monastery where Elder Cleopas made him a hermit and later abbot of the Skete Raraou. One day in June 1958, he greeted the brothers and went to Bucharest, having been informed by God that he will re-enter prison, where he will die, confessing Christ. The principal of guilt, as confessed by a court magistrate, was that he wanted to burn Communism with The Fiery Rug.

One day in winter, they put him together with a friend in a storehouse – the White or the Refrigerator – where it was minus 30 degrees. The storehouse had no windows, but a very dirty floor. People who were put in there would die of cold after no more than three days. Father Daniel lay down immediately with his face in the dirt and with open arms, and told the friend: “Sit on me back to back with open arms and say only this, ‘Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, the sinner!'” Immediately as they started to say this, the storehouse was filled by a very brilliant light, and thereafter they did not know what happened next. After eight days (without the two prisoners receiving any water or food, sleep or clothes), the guards came to take their carcasses, but they were alive and fine. When they touched Father Daniel he was hot, and what was around him had melted.

In prison he was one of the few who wore leg chains during his time of incarceration. He died after four years of suffering in Aiount on November 17, 1962. We do not know exactly where his holy body is to be found.

Valeriu Gafencu

Valeriu was born on January 24, 1921 in Vasaravia. In the autumn of 1941 he was imprisoned and sentenced to 25 years of prison. He was then a second year student of the Law and Philosophy School of Iasi. Becoming ill with TB, he was sent in December 1949 to Tirgou-Okna. There, with no medical care, he survived another two years. With many physical wounds, they would continuously discharge pus. Valeriu awaited his death with a serenity which softened the hearts of his guards and tormentors. He was a man of noetic prayer. He was made worthy by God to know the day of his death. He asked to be buried with one cross in his mouth, and another in the right hand so as to be recognized if perchance his bodied was found. He departed to heaven, this “saint of prisons” (as other inmates have called him) on 18 February 1952 and thrown in a common, as of yet unknown, tomb. Read more about him here, here and here.

h/t Mystagogy Blog

A Celtic Prayer for Priests

Christ is the Priest above us,
Ordained of God for all the living.
Christ is the Priest above us.
The bread, His Body; the wine, His Blood;
Food for the wayward, drink for the lost.
Christ is the Priest above us.
His garden of sorrow, His garden of betrayal,
A Kiss for the King, a Sign for the soldiers.
Christ is the Priest above us.
Nailed to the Cross of terrible agony;
Anguish, distress, crucified pain.
Christ is the Priest above us.
I hear the hills, I hear the seas,
I hear the angels heralding to earth,
Christ is the Priest above us.
His Heart, my heart; His Hands my hands;
My very self belongs to Him.
Christ is the Priest above us.
I bear his name; I speak his voice,
Without envy, or anger, or shadow on heart.
Christ is the Priest above us.
I am the face of Christ the Priest;
I am His servant at the door.
Guide me, guard me, heal me, help me
Be the window through which You shine–
Christ the Priest above us. Amen.
 

Adapted from the Gaelic by E. R. Barr

h/t Anamchara

Great and Holy Wednesday

Two women – say the more discerning interpreters of the Gospel – anointed the Lord with myrrh; the one, a long time before His Passion; the other, a few days before. One was a harlot and sinner; the other, chaste and virtuous. The Church commemorates this reverent act today. While mentioning herein the person of the harlot, it also mentions Judas’ betrayal; for, according to the account in Matthew, both of these deeds took place two days before the Passover, on Wednesday.

That woman, then, anointed Jesus’ head and feet with very precious myrrh, and wiped them with the tresses of her hair. The disciples, especially the avaricious Judas, were scandalized, supposedly because of the waste of the myrrh, which could be sold for a great price and given to the poor. The Lord Jesus reproved them and told them not to trouble the woman. Indignant, Judas went to the high priests, who were gathered in the court of Caiaphas and were already taking counsel against Jesus. On agreeing with them to betray his Teacher for thirty pieces of silver, Judas sought from that time opportunity to betray Him (Matt. 26:14-16). Because the betrayal took place on Wednesday, we have received the tradition from Apostolic times to fast on Wednesday throughout the year.

The Great Myrrh Being Prepared at Antim Monastery

(OBL)On 29 March 2010, the preparations for the consecration of the Great Myrrh began at the chapel dedicated to the Saint Prophet John the Baptist, at Antim Monastery of Bucharest.

His Eminence Laurenţiu, Metropolitan of Transylvania, celebrated the consecration service of the Holy Water, as delegate of His Beatitude Patriarch Daniel, together with His Grace Mihail of Australia and New Zealand, His Grace Ciprian Câmpineanul, Assistant Bishop to the Patriarch, His Grace Varsanufie Prahoveanul, Assistant Bishop to the Archdiocese of Bucharest and His Grace Ioachim Băcăoanul, Assistant Bishop to the Archdiocese of Roman and Bacău, assisted by a group of priests and deacons, including reverend archimandrite Timotei Aioanei, cultural exarch to the Archdiocese of Bucharest and great ecclesiarch of the Patriarchal Cathedral – informs “Lumina” newspaper.

After the consecration of the holy water, the ingredients and vessels prepared for consecrating the Great Myrrh were sprinkled with holy water. His Eminence Laurenţiu lit the fire that would boil the decoction, while the priests washed the vessels with holy water.

“We glorify God for this beginning of the preparation for the Great Myrrh, as a sacramental work of the Church, a special work invested with the highest canonical authority because only an autocephalous Church can consecrate the Great Myrrh”, said His Eminence Laurenţiu.

His Eminence explained the usage of the Holy Great Myrrh, saying that this preparation “is a very important work from a spiritual point of view for us, because the Great Myrrh prepared here and consecrated on the Holy Thursday, will be distributed to all the churches of the Romanian Patriarchate and used first of all in the Sacrament of the Holy Myrrh of the Holy Unction, because it is the matter consecrated not only by a single hierarch, but by all the bishops of Holy Synod. The Holy Great Myrrh will be used for consecrating the churches, for preparing the table of the Holy Altar just like the tomb of Jesus Christ, our Lord, for consecrating the antimises that will replace the Holy Table. These are the objects absolutely necessary for celebrating the Divine Liturgies, expressing, at the same time, the relation of the priest with his hierarch, because the Holy Antimis is signed by the local hierarch. The Holy Great Myrrh will be kept at the Patriarchate for the needs of all the religious units of all our churches over the year.

Tomorrow morning, after the celebration of the Hours service, the preparation of the plants decoction will begin, which will be mixed on Wednesday with olive oil, and on the Holy Thursday, will be consecrated by the Holy Synod of the Romanian Orthodox Church, within the Divine Liturgy of Saint Basil the Great.

The olive oil for preparing the Great Myrrh was offered by the Romanian Orthodox Diocese of Italy and by the Metropolitan See of Corinth (Greece) as a present, and the wine by the Archdiocese of Tomis. The fifteen spices and most of the thirty essential oils were acquired from Egypt, Jordan, Syria, France, Bulgaria, Spain and Jerusalem, as Trinitas Radio Station informs us.

Romanian Orthodox Church Consecrates the Holy Great Myrrh

During the first three days of the Holy Week of the Passions of Jesus Christ, our Saviour, (29 – 31 March 2010), the Great Myrrh will be prepared at Antim Monastery of Bucharest, and consecrated during the Divine Liturgy celebrated in the Patriarchal Cathedral by His Beatitude Patriarch Daniel, assisted by the hierarchs of the Holy Synod of the Romanian Orthodox Church on the Holy Thursday (1 April 2010).

The consecration of the Holy Great Myrrh represents the visible manifestation of the synodality of an Orthodox Autocephalous Church and her full pastoral responsibility.The Great Myrrh is prepared and consecrated when the myrrh quantity present is almost run out of, according to the requirements of the pastoral-missionary work of the Church.

The Great Myrrh is prepared out of the following ingredients: best olive oil, white wine and many spices and flavoursv which symbolise the gifts of the Holy Spirit. After consecration, the Great Myrrh is called the HOLY GREAT MYRRH. It will be used for the Ointment Sacrament (after Baptism), consecration, re-consecration of the churches and for the consecration of the antimises.

In order to prepare the Great Myrrh this year, the olive oil was offered by the Romanian Orthodox Diocese of Italy and by the Metropolitan See of Corinth as a present, and the wine by the Archdiocese of Tomis.

The fifteen flavoured plants and the most part of the thirty essential oils needed were acquired from abroad, from Egypt, Jordan, Syria, France, Bulgaria, Spain and Jerusalem, with the financial support of the Romanian Orthodox eparchies from the country and abroad. The other essential oils were offered to the Romanian Patriarchate by Rev. Archim. Prof. Dr. Qais Sadiq on behalf of the Patriarchate of Antioch, because he studied theology in Romania and visits periodically the Arab Orthodox faithful of our country.

Due to the importance of the Holy Great Myrrh in the Church and in the life of the faithful, it is kept in a place of honour, in the Holy Altar and used, with all proper honour, only in case of need.

After the consecration of the Great Myrrh this year, every eparchy of the Romanian Patriarchate will receive five litres of Holy Great Myrrh in a stainless amphora made in Greece for the purpose. A part of this amount will be kept in every eparchial Cathedral for consecrating the antimises, for consecrating and re-consecrating the church, while another part of it will be distributed to the parishes of the eparchy for celebrating the Extreme Unction Sacrament.

The Great Myrrh was consecrated for the first time in the Romanian Orthodox Church on the Holy Thursday (25 March), in 1882. The consecration was celebrated by the Primate Metropolitan Calinic Miclescu and by the hierarchs of the Holy Synod during the Divine Liturgy officiated in the Metropolitan Cathedral of Bucharest, three years before the recognition of the Autocephaly of the Romanian Orthodox Church by the Ecumenical Patriarchate (1885).

After the raising of the Romanian Orthodox Church to the rank of Patriarchate (1925), the Great Myrrh was consecrated for the first time by Patriarch Miron Cristea and by the members of the Holy Synod on 1 April 1926. The Great Myrrh was consecrated for 20 times in the Romanian Orthodox Church so far (1882, 1894, 1906, 1921, 1936, 1934, 1942, 1950, 1955, 1958, 1965, 1968, 1973, 1978, 1983, 1988, 1993, 1996, 2002, 2007).

The consecration of the Great Myrrh this year, for the 21st time in the Romanian Orthodox Church, is part of the manifestations of 2010, the Holy Synod proclaimed as Homage Year of the Orthodox Creed and of the Romanian Autocephaly.

PRESS OFFICE OF THE ROMANIAN PATRIARCHATE

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